3.08.2012

Dear Sabe, We Love You >>>

Im very sad to say that we lost our sweet Sabe yesterday around 10 in the morning.  After talking to the doctors the night before we were a bit prepared to possibly have to make the decision to take him off the ventilator and let him go.  During the night one of his lungs collapsed.  We think he mentally decided to go before he even made it into the ICU.  Its been a very hard 2 weeks for all of our family, and must of been insanely hard for Sabe.  My nanna and him were married for only 2 years, and it just seems soooo unfair that he had to be pulled away from her so soon.  It was probably the best 2 years of her whole life.  He treated her like she has always deserved to be treated, he adored her.  And she him.  This whole event has just been terribly heartbreaking.  Watching this big strong man wither before our eyes was so hard.  Alot like when my mom was sick.  Its amazing how fast our bodies change once it decides its going to leave us.  Even though it was hard, Im so glad we were all able to be with him, by his side through it all.  Even though he couldnt respond, Im sure he knew we were there.  He left this world with loving hands on him, just like my momma did.  One thing I was wishing so badly this week that my daddy could of felt... but then I was reminded what a private man my dad was, and he probably would of hated people standing over him if he was sick.  I know this.  We will miss this beautiful soul we lost so very much.  I was reminded once again what an amazingly strong woman my Nanna is, and what a caring soul she has.  Watching her hold his hand and talk to him was another one of the most bittersweet moments Ive ever experienced.  She is the ultimate nurturer.  I look up to my Nanna in the biggest way.  I pray she feels the love of this family and finds peace in her heart once again.  I am so blessed to be a part of such a loving family.

Sabe, I love you.
Laura

27 comments:

  1. So sorry to hear this! Lots of love and thoughts going out to you and your family!

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  2. My greatest condolences. I hope you all are as well as can be expected. Loving energy is being sent your family's way.

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  3. I'm so sorry for your family's loss Laura...You've been through so much in the last 3 years. You and your family are in my prayers!

    Susan

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  4. I am so so sorry for your loss, laura. My love and sympathy to you and your family.

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  5. Laura, I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. I lost my own grandmother earlier in the year, and I still cry over her photographs. Stay strong, love.

    xoxo - http://cachecloset.blogspot.com/

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  6. My sweet friend, this made me cry. I know this must have hurt so much after already having lost your momma and papa. I am SO thankful that he got to bring some love and lightness into your grandmas life during those 2 years of marriage. I'm praying that she will always feel his spirit close by <3
    Love you so much.
    xo Moorea

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  7. He was so lucky to have someone like you in his life-- your compassion is sweet & heartfelt; I know he's looking down on you, smiling!
    My heart is with you and your family, xoxo

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  8. Laura, I'm so very sorry to hear that you have been through so many difficult times lately...it really seems unfair that all of these things have happened so close together to you. They say bad things happen in 3's so I really hope that it means that there is only happiness in your future. Thinking of you and sending love and hugs your way...xo

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  9. Oh Laura, I am so sorry for your loss. It does seem unfair that Sabe had to be pulled from your Nanna so soon, but it sounds like their connection is so strong that he'll never really be far away. It sounds like you and Nanna have a very strong connection as well. And how wonderful that you were all there with Sabe as he made his transition.

    You have been through SO much, and there are never the right words to say in times of great loss. But I admire you so much for your strength, compassion, and kindness. May your Nanna find peace in her heart and may your whole family know how much you are loved during this difficult time.

    Love,
    melissa

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  10. i'm sorry sweets. <3 sending love and prayers to you and your family.

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  11. Laura, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Sabe. My condolences...

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  12. So sorry for you loss. He looks so happy in that picture... always remember him that way.

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  13. Sincerest condolences to you and your family. xx

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  14. This post definitely put me in tears. Sending you some positive energy and light. <3

    xoxo.

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  15. aww parting is such sweet sorrow. sending love.

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  16. Much love to you and yours... very sorry to read the news of your sweet Sabe.

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  17. I am in tears. What a wonderful man! I'm so glad he got to be part of your lives... and I just know you all impacted his life as much as he impacted yours. I'm so glad his time here on earth ended with lots of love and precious people by his side. He's smiling down on you right now.

    You guys are in my constant thoughts, and I'm sending up lots of prayers that peace and comfort are found during this time. I hope your Nanna sees reminders of Sabe's love every single day.

    Let me know if there's anything I can do. Love you, Laura. xo.

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  18. Lots of love & positive thoughts coming your way from me. I'm so sorry to hear this.

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  19. I am so sorry for your loss Laura! I will continue to prayer for peace to you and your family. I love you and I wish i was there to hug you! <3

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  20. Wow this post touched me so very much--especially because I lost my grandfather, who I was very close to, this past January and the same thing you witnessed with your grandmother and Sabe was what I saw my grandmother do with my grandfather...holding his hand with his loved ones around him as he passed. I know how beautiful that is and how much love can fill up such a tiny room--I am positive Sabe felt that love. My heart goes out to your grandmother and you.

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  21. So very sorry for your loss. For a girl who brings such joy through your blog and shops, you have had such a tough road. Hang in there Laura. You are admired and loved for who you are. Hugs for your loved ones during this sad time.

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  22. So sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute to a man who was clearly dear to you and your family!

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  23. I'm very sorry for your loss Laura. I hope even now that your heart is on its way to healing.

    And I must say I found it interesting that you said Sabe mentally decided to go before he even made it to the ICU--this has been an occurrence in my family too. I'll never forget when my Auntie Mimi was telling our family to enjoy our time together at our annual Christmas Eve dinner one year--it was her last one with us and it was as if she knew it was. And the same happened a little over a year ago with my cousin. He was battling cancer and one night he took the time to say his goodbyes to his wife and daughter and say everything he meant to say to them and by the next morning he had let himself go. I think people just know when it's their time. I don't necessarily think that they're giving up so much as letting go. I'm sure Sabe was holding on for so long because he knew what he would be leaving and it was difficult for him to make that choice to go. That just shows what a great family he left behind : ] I'm sure you will find strength in one another.

    I'm very sorry for your Nana's loss too. But I think it's better that they had two years together rather than none at all (seems silly to put it that but I really believe this. I've always said I would rather have a true love for the last year of my life than to have a half-love for my whole life) She is lucky that she got to have such a wonderful love. I wish her well!

    (And I hope none of this came out the wrong way--it all comes from a good place, though sometimes written word doesn't sound the same as spoken ones do.)

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  24. I'm so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts xo

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  25. Sorry for another loss in your life, Laura! My grandfather passed away two days after Christmas. We almost lost him in late October but he stuck around for his favourite thing, Christmas with his family and then I think he decided it was time to go. It's very hard to see people you love go and others you love lose their special someone - I feel that way about my grandmother, on her own for the first time in 40 years!

    My thoughts are with you and your family!

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  26. Laura, my heart breaks for you and your family. So sorry for your loss. He looks like a warm soul, I can see joy in his eyes.
    Catherine Denton

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Thank you so much for your sweet comments!